Well as a mother to be, you could start to eat more (You can pig out as long as most of it is healthy food and don't smoke or quit if you already smoke) in order to ensure that your baby would come out more healthy and to minimize complications during child birth.

Thing is I'm petit and very thin so my body will be quite ruined by the entire thing. Scars, Back issues just over all apin since I'm as thin as I am.

Perhaps as a man, I don't understand but why would your body not be built to carry a child? You still have a uterus right? According to some petite women, size doesn't really make a difference -> http://babyandbump.momtastic.com/pre...pregnancy.html and there's always the "C-section" (Or Cesarean Section) available if you don't want to experience the "Joy" (Or pain, depending upon whom you ask) of giving birth (As a man, I'll never know what it'll be like).


I can also understand your latter reason for wanting to adopt. In fact, it is a more generous decision for the two of you to open up your hearts and home to a baby who, for all intents and purposes, is a stranger (Or a family member that you have not yet met)! You know better than me that the adoption process won't be easy considering that a baby is involved (Sometimes the biological mother may have second thoughts and may want her baby back). The adoption process might be a "Bumpy ride" especially once you develop an emotional bond with the baby during the probation(?) period.

Likly the second option. My bodies not built to carry a child and jen's job and work hours keep her to busy. Besides it just feels right to me since i was adopted as well.

It's true that being an ARDL is a part of myself and I know that it is not psychologically good to suppress your feelings towards such things (It could possibly lead to the manifestation of physical health problems like ulcers or increased high blood pressure) but sometimes like Spock said in the Star Trek II movie "The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few [Or the one]." That is what parents are supposed to do for their children - Sacrifice of themselves. Don't worry. I haven't found the "Right woman" for me yet, so in the meantime I'll continue to enjoy my ARDL lifestyle while keeping in the back of my mind that I'll let it go and devote myself to my "To be" wife entirely when the time comes to get married. My ARDL lifestyle wouldn't have been all for nothing - As an AR'ed "Baby", I'll have a very good idea of what my babies would want or possibly enjoy and it would make for me being a new parent easier as I would truly understand why a baby would cry in the middle of the night. I wouldn't be as stressed out as many new parents often are since I in some way would have a deeper understanding of the baby's perspective of things rather than view the same things entirely from an adult's perspective but my perspective would also be balanced out with my parent's perspective as well. I would be more attentive to my babies rather than less attentive which should make me an even more loving parent.

It's good that you've found someone that is supportive of your ABDL lifestyle but honestly, I don't think that I'll have such good luck finding a spouse that would support my current lifestyle. I don't think that it would be practical for my wife and myself. My life wouldn't be so humdrum without diapers. My wife and I could still enjoy a catgirl and catboy costume fantasy in bed and really let "The fur fly"! Meow, baby! IMHO, the relationship that you have with Jen is extremely rare. Cherish it at every moment you lucky baby girl!


So about your plans for having a child - What are you and Jen planning on doing? Are the two of you going to get some donor sperm and get fertilized? If so who will carry the baby to full term? Or are the two of you going to adopt a baby? With the first option, at least the kid will be half biologically a part of your family since one of you will provide the egg.

I still disagree. If you raise a chaild to understand it and raise them to have a open mind on things then while it might be weird to walk in on it will still teach said child to understand others and be accpeting of who they are. Far to many people in this world are to scarde to be open about who they are and that just casues issues. You can't just get read of that part of yourself since its part of who you are. Its just going to stress you out in some why shape or form.

Well, I know for sure that there were others who thought along the same lines as myself. Sami-Chan and Brabbit1987 both found their life partners and had given up their ABDL lifestyles AFAIK. Besides, I still think that it would freak out my children if one night they accidentally walked into our (My wife and I) bedroom and saw one of their parents diapering and treating the other one like a baby. Can you imagine the psychological scars that would cause? I think that it would be selfish of me to do that.

I disagree. You don't HAve to give things up. its just a matter of time managment dear.

For real? That sounds great for the both of you! I thought you said early on that you would never have a child because you thought that it wouldn't work out (See your VM dated March 25, 16) -> https://diaperedanime.com/forum/conv...=42459&page=28. Anyway, thanks for trying to help me sort it out but I've thought about it for a long time and for me it just makes sense to left my ARDL life fade away when I get married and have children. IMHO, It's the first thing that married people are supposed do when they become parents: Sacrifice a part of their personal lives for their kids. People have been doing it on the Earth for centuries. I guess that's just how things are supposed to work in the World.

Well I dunno you could maybe get it to work dear. I know that me and Jenny have been thinking about having a child ourselfs and I can promise i won't be giving up this side of myself. It just means balencing out my life is all.