I am a little bit insecure
 

I am afraid about abdl, because i fear of the opnion of others.

I wont some help accept this please.

Well if you are looking for acceptance on being an ab/dl then you have come to the right place since the majority of people here are ab/dl's. just understand that you are not wrong in your desires and if you are discovering this for the first time then i can take a while. feel free to ask me anything else.

Same as Llamalord said besides just be glad its not the weirdest fetish out there. Infact its one of the better ones out there and tamer then alot of them,Llamalord had posted a link in a chat and I had about the subject

http://wkld.diaperchat.com/

http://understanding.infantilism.org/

Also this fits my thoughts on the subject http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_aBDbeK1igc

thanks for help, i hope this help for make me i idea

i agree with what everyones said, don't worry, you're just being yourself, and there is nothing wrong about it :) you can't help the way you're born, afterall, according to something i'd read online i think its like 1 in every 100 or so people are born and grow up as ab/dls i can't remember if it was 100 or like 1,000 10,000 something like that... its nothing uncommon, its actually more common than people think, its just hard to find others with it because they aren't open about it. and so finding a mate with the same fetish is definitely the toughest part since its most common in males than in females according to statistics

hope this helps

i really hate statistics

yeah, as far as fetishes go this is one of the better ones. On an ironic note, psychologists really have a lot of fun with this fetish. It made it into one of the books we had to read for IB Literature in high school.

F*@% statistics. It's a shame that girls don't get into diaperloving that often. It's ironic isn't it? Girls are practically MADE for diapers. Such a waste. *Sigh* Well, what'cha gonna you do about it?

dude i couldn't agree more about girls being MADE for diapers, i mean really in all honesty i absolutely agree, i think that girls are made for them as well. considering growing up, i knew a LOT of girls who would have accidents easily. not to mention a lot of girls i know have a harder time holding their piss than my friends who are males. i mean seriously, you could put me and all of my friends into a room, me and all of the guys would be sitting there calm, cool and relaxed, and the girls would be hopping up and down one foot to the other tryin to hold it in. they'd be like doin a potty dance, we'd be sittin there crackin up. lol i seriously agree with you though, girls are MADE for diapers.

Thank, but i am boy.

DL-Qc this is how we got on the subject of girls. we weren't saying you were a girl.
And also, mewmewpowerfan35 your right too but come on, let's not forget the MAIN reason girls are MADE for diapers. I'm talking PHYSICALLY BUILT for diapers. Externally....ya know?:o Yeah, us males can only pee parallel with the diaper's absorbent surface, but girls always pee DIRECTLY into the diaper. And without diapers, we can aim, they can't. So we're built not to wear diapers, but girls ARE. :(

well, i guess you do have a point, however, i did kinda mention it when i described why. the problem however with that theory is the fact that with guys you can aim inside the diaper as well, so you can help it absorb better, where as girls pee in ONE spot inside the diaper and it can EASILY pool up in the diaper cause it can't absorb fast enough and suddenly its leaking all over the place you know. but with guys they can pee in a certain spot, however they can readjust themselves so the diaper can absorb everything.

i mean with your point, what you're bringing up basically saying they're built for diapers because of their "organ" there noting that not only are the statistics that more boys are ab/dl but also the stats say that more boys are bedwetters than girls, which in my opinion, if you would be to honestly ask me i would say the stats are wrong and that more girls should be bedwetters considering that organ seeing as how boys can easily squeeze their thing and keep anything from coming out, girls can't do that. so i find it hard to believe that more boys are bedwetters than girls.

i honestly hate the statistics considering, half the time statistics are wrong, yet of course the one thing they have to be correct on is the fact that more males than females are ab/dl it really rather f**king sucks... i mean seriously f**king sucks. no i'm not trying to be sexist, especially considering i don't like boys, i only like girls, however not the point, the point i'm making here is, of course stats say that more boys wet the bed, but i think that is totally inacurate and they must have mis counted or counted some kids more than once to get that number because girls are more emotional about it than boys are. believe me, i know that cause of my ex girlfriend, 18 years old, she was still a bedwetter, and she called me one morning in a bad mood cause she wet the bed. yet a buddy of mine used to wet the bed a boy, i stayed the night at his house, he woke up wet and didn't even give a damn.

so yeah, it may seem rather sexist that i'm saying what i am, but i'm not sexist, i'm just going by what i know from experience.

Well I am a girl lol. And yes I have heard the same statistics about males being bedwetters more then females. I am not sure if it's right or wrong, but I do know more males who had bedwetting problems when they where younger then I know females who wet the bed. So maybe it's true ?? :p

I also agree diapers are totally perfect for girls. I look so adorable in a diaper. :p

Bullcrap. Now you're just thinking WAY to far into it. First of all, if you were peeing, you wouldn't be able to reach in there and redirect. And the need to "redirect" in the first place is because our "organ" can only POINT UP OR DOWN. Girls ALWAYS pee in the perfect spot for most positions were most diapers are designed to absorb the most. MOST MOST MOST! AND IT'S DIRECT. Forced into the absorbent material. So it actually DOESN"T flood because it's IN the absorbent material, NOT ON TOP OF IT. Here, try it yourself. Get a garden hose and something like a sponge. To simulate a boy, put the hose parallel with the sponge's surface. then to simulate a girl, point the hose directly into the sponge. Which one takes the water in better? Which one spills over first? Also, because of our "organs" pee can't spread through our diapers that well and is mostly isolated to the "spot" we are directing at. They act as a barrier. Girls do a better job at evenly distributing pee in their diapers because like I said, it's UNDER the diaper's surface being channeled through the absorbent core and the "spot" they pee is great for whatever position they may be in. Standing up or whatever. It's in the middle but slightly forward. I could go on and on but.....I think that's enough. MAN THIS IS A HEATED DISCUSION! I can barely remember how we got off topic like this! Sorry DL-Qc if we ruined your thread.:D

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Oh yeah, brabbit1987. Girls look much better in diapers too. there's no "bumps" when girls wear. Just smooth curved plastic.;) You are blessed to be a girl brabbit1987. * ENVY METER CLIMBIMG!!!*

mmhm and i'm thinking too far into it sure XD
dude, girls can only pee in one spot and once it fills up the MOST ABSORBENT MATERIAL it has to go to another spot it can and will pool up.

but whatever, you believe what you wanna believe, i'll believe what i wanna believe, this is interrupting my favorite Thursday night anime, so i'm not gonna add anything else, since thankfully right now its a commercial. some other time when my favorite anime isn't on i may decide to add more on this subject.

Um well I have had diapers leak on me if I let it out all at once.

my point exactly
thanks for proving my point

The last thing I'm gonna say is that girls "pool up" less than guys and the explanation is in my other post. But whatever, there is absolutely nothing wrong about having your own opinion...... even if it makes less sense.:D But honestly, if I could just be a girl...............................*sigh*

Do you want to be a girl just for that reason or are there other reasons you want to be a girl? >.>

Well, kind of. What I was really trying to say is that for that reason, being a girl would be much MUCH more beneficial for me (or any male for that matter). Especially after listing everything out. Well now that I think about it, yeah maybe I do want to because my life would be more strait forward being that diapers are involved with my life. Right now I feel like one person has my right arm, and another person has my left arm and they are trying to tear me in two. I'm kinda pulling away from diapers because it's just not working out so right. But, I still have a DEEP love for diapers. There are other interests of mine that I'm factoring in and other things I'd like to spend my money on. I'm indecisive and have no sense as to which direction I should go.:confused: As a boy, I'm starting to feel as if I am not ment to wear diapers and I just doesn't feel right as much. But, as I've already said I still LOVE diapers. I'm just in a somewhat lost state. If I was a girl, it would be crystal clear as to what dicisions I should make concerning this stuff. But "becoming" a girl...Pfff:rolleyes:, please, that ain't never gonna happen. A great thing to dream about though huh? Ha ha, so a streat forward answer to your question........sure I guess, why the heck not?

I see I see. Well more power to ya. You can change sex if you where transgender ... costs tons though and takes alot of time. But I would guess you are probably not transgender. Transgender usually have really strong feelings to almost hate about being their current gender and they usually self identify as the opposite gender. They also usually feel as such nearly their whole life.

Nah. Becoming a girl is just something that, if it just happened magically, I'd be like "Ok then, cool." Other than that? Huh, yeah right.:rolleyes: Not gonna happen. I wouldn't even make an attempt at it. Yeah it sounds nice but hay, that's what imagination is for. Just something fun to think about. Nothing more. Transgender? LOL NO. Quite the opposite. Eather I am gonna be 100% male or 100% female and looking at myself now......100% male.;)

37.3% of statistics are made up on the spot. I'm not sure I would really want to do the said diaper thing with possible mate anyways... Dunno always felt like a private affair to me.

i am more cofiend now

well i'm a guy and aiming down does help asorbency (please pardon my awful spelling) and diapers weren't built just for girls, they look and work just as well on guys (though i am gay so my point might be skewed) though the point is the same, don't let gender get in the way of your passions, if you like diapers, embrace that feeling and don't let anyone or thing tell you otherwise.

i am a straight male, your point was just fine. either way things work. if you are a guy and like wearing diapers, well, do it then. gender nor orientation matter. the only thing that matters in the end is how you deal with it. =)

Then until you get the courage only express that you're a AB/DL on AB/DL websites. Then maybe one day you'll get better...or you'll be like me and still only talking about this on AB/DL websites.

well yes. of course that is difficult. if someone finds out you wear diapers, they may laugh at you for a bit, and thats no real big deal. i know most people would feel like a complete jerk for teasing someone who wears diapers because they need to.
but if they learn its because you like them and not because you need them, thing may get very complicated, there is no turning back from that point. but apparently most people are pretty accepting, the issue is the ones who arent and how relentless they can be
i know of athletes that wear diapers because they are dedicated to their training, also some marathons recommend you to wear a "disposable garment" due to their length and how much water you are supposed to drink during the time. lastly, astronauts and olympic athletes also both commonly wear diapers. very few people tease them about it

Thanks, i hope this help me.

easy get a sex change then you will pee like a girl cos you wont have a willy also if your on the NHS it's free [i think] someone i know had it done abt 5yrs ago how he walks talks and acts like a girl i met him-her the other day one time he was a brickey now hes going a beauty parlor thing what a transformation his lifes become one minuet bearly to pay his morgie then being richer than rich lookey ba***rd i say one down side most of the people he worked with dont reconize him and wolf whistle till he turns around and says stop it in his true voice

i think i accept a little bit

that would be funny to see, i would probably laugh so hard i soak my diaper.

I accept you for who you are!
 

I try to love everyone for who they are and am sorry you feel this way about yourself. You must be surrounded by judgemental hypocrites in your waking world. If you want some insight let me tell you this then: There's no poimt in fearing or worrying about what you cant change or control right? And in the end you cant change or control people or their own naive, displaced, ignorant opinions either!
So you really have nothing to fear! Your better than them on a certain level because you can understand this going thru what you are now.
If you want to really feel better, you have to learn to better accept yourself, then you will become immune to other peoples false opinions and negative thoughts. Trust me it works, you just have to trust yourself first.

Thank for help. i think i must accept myself

I'm still having a tough time accepting myself, and often get shy and self conscious, but I hope you're feeling better about it!