Why is it people have issues with wearing diapers?

[NicroZeo]

So I was just wondering around and turns out some how wearing diapers is a fetish when fetishism has more to do with sexuality. I'm just curious HOW THE HELL does wearing diapers have to do with having a fetish? I kinda feel offended when someone calls it a fetish just because I like wearing diapers .-. does anyone else have an issue with this?

fet·ish
ˈfetiSH/
noun
noun: fetish; plural noun: fetishes



a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing <- kinda fucked up, part of the body, etc.


How the hell is wearing clothes a sexual desire O-o

Well, it depends on the person... For some of us, it is indeed a fetish as defined in your post. But that isn't the only meaning of the word "Fetish". Check it:

A fetish is an extremely strong devotion to something. There are sexual fetishes and nonsexual fetishes: both are obsessive interests.

The most common use of the word fetish is probably the sexual meaning. Someone with a foot fetish is abnormally interested in feet and gets sexual pleasure from seeing, being around, and even thinking about feet. There are probably thousands of sexual fetishes, most of which are too inappropriate to write about here. A non-sexual fetish is just an excessive interest in something, like a football fan who lives and breathes everything NFL.

Usually, AB/DL is split up into two very distinct groups... Those who like acting out being a kid or baby (AB) and those who have an object fetish for diapers. (DL) ABs are generally non-sexual and often partake because it is comfortable or they like the idea of regression. DLs on the other hand generally have a sexual object fetish towards diapers and wearing them.

But here's the problem: You often can't categorize people effectively into either.

AB/DLs are a very diverse group, we often get mixes of these two subgroups, or things that we can't really categorize at all using such a system. We sometimes get non-sexual DLs and sexual ABs, sometimes we get ABs who are also DLs, and we sometimes get people who have these interests without the need to wear diapers at all.

We are a diverse group that gets crammed into one term, one collective interest: AB/DL. As a result, we often confuse our own interests with the interests of others; We think that others in our group have the exact same interests, sexual or not, as we do because of this ambiguity. But in reality this is often not the case.

Judging from your post, your interests are non-sexual, but I can assure you that to me it's all sexual. I am about as close as you can get to a pure DL. I have an object fetish for diapers and nothing else. Regression means nothing to me, and I really don't care much for babyish stuff. (Though I will admit I really like cute things, which some babyish things can be.)

My point is there is a great disparity for the reasons we both like diapers, but neither is necessarily invalid.

[brabbit1987]

Originally Posted by thingywhat

Well, it depends on the person... For some of us, it is indeed a fetish as defined in your post. But that isn't the only meaning of the word "Fetish". Check it:



Usually, AB/DL is split up into two very distinct groups... Those who like acting out being a kid or baby (AB) and those who have an object fetish for diapers. (DL) ABs are generally non-sexual and often partake because it is comfortable or they like the idea of regression. DLs on the other hand generally have a sexual object fetish towards diapers and wearing them.

But here's the problem: You often can't categorize people effectively into either.

AB/DLs are a very diverse group, we often get mixes of these two subgroups, or things that we can't really categorize at all using such a system. We sometimes get non-sexual DLs and sexual ABs, sometimes we get ABs who are also DLs, and we sometimes get people who have these interests without the need to wear diapers at all.

We are a diverse group that gets crammed into one term, one collective interest: AB/DL. As a result, we often confuse our own interests with the interests of others; We think that others in our group have the exact same interests, sexual or not, as we do because of this ambiguity. But in reality this is often not the case.

Judging from your post, your interests are non-sexual, but I can assure you that to me it's all sexual. I am about as close as you can get to a pure DL. I have an object fetish for diapers and nothing else. Regression means nothing to me, and I really don't care much for babyish stuff. (Though I will admit I really like cute things, which some babyish things can be.)

My point is there is a great disparity for the reasons we both like diapers, but neither is necessarily invalid.

I could not have said it better myself. Good job .

Everything Thingywhat has said is exactly my thoughts on the matters as well.

Personally, I don't fit into either category. I don't like acting like a baby, however, I do like baby items, such as pacifiers, and bottles. I like using them too. I love the smell of baby powder. Diapers are comfortable to me and I will wear them only for comfort sometimes. However, at the same time it's a sexual fetish for me. I am also into omorashi, desperation and wetting, which is entirely fetish.

[NicroZeo]

Originally Posted by thingywhat

Well, it depends on the person... For some of us, it is indeed a fetish as defined in your post. But that isn't the only meaning of the word "Fetish". Check it:



Usually, AB/DL is split up into two very distinct groups... Those who like acting out being a kid or baby (AB) and those who have an object fetish for diapers. (DL) ABs are generally non-sexual and often partake because it is comfortable or they like the idea of regression. DLs on the other hand generally have a sexual object fetish towards diapers and wearing them.

But here's the problem: You often can't categorize people effectively into either.

AB/DLs are a very diverse group, we often get mixes of these two subgroups, or things that we can't really categorize at all using such a system. We sometimes get non-sexual DLs and sexual ABs, sometimes we get ABs who are also DLs, and we sometimes get people who have these interests without the need to wear diapers at all.

We are a diverse group that gets crammed into one term, one collective interest: AB/DL. As a result, we often confuse our own interests with the interests of others; We think that others in our group have the exact same interests, sexual or not, as we do because of this ambiguity. But in reality this is often not the case.

Judging from your post, your interests are non-sexual, but I can assure you that to me it's all sexual. I am about as close as you can get to a pure DL. I have an object fetish for diapers and nothing else. Regression means nothing to me, and I really don't care much for babyish stuff. (Though I will admit I really like cute things, which some babyish things can be.)

My point is there is a great disparity for the reasons we both like diapers, but neither is necessarily invalid.

I kinda like using pacifiers during bed because it makes me feel better I still think it's labeling which is bullshit in my eyes .-. so what though I like being like a kid or baby that doesn't mean you should label someone. Unless it's an interaction with your body parts like screwing someone then that's a fetish in my eyes like maybe Oral sex or some shit but wearing diapers? I just don't see that .-. I just get highly offended though if someone think acting like a kid is a fetish >.< I also dress like a kid in public and if someone said I had a fetish I'd tell them to fuck off it's just me being me. Plus if you never got it I kinda blend in as a kid any way XD I know people have there own opinions so this is just mine. BTW Sorry for not responding I've been working on getting Wal Marts ass chewed out for harassing me plus the owner is fed up the way one of the managers and employee harassed me in front of other customers. I'm not ignoring y'all I've just been really busy getting my pay check Wal Mart also still owes me. Not to mention I'm getting this new job set up and have to take a shot for it. BTW Sorry if I sounded like an ass but I've been busy so yeah. As well if you saw me irl I am kinda cute most of the workers at Wal Mart like me some of the employees are pissed off they harassed me any way I was always get called awww and they'd giggle a little bit because I'm small as hell irl. Though I do not see again anything wrong with it I just don't like the fetish part I just like it to like being a kid or baby and treated like one because I feel safer. I do like being part of an adult but I also try to keep a low profile when I go out because I don't trust a lot of people I know again I sounded harsh but yeah I just don't wanna get mixed up as a fetish since a fetish is a sexual object I'm thinking maybe those dick toys or maybe a sexual satisfaction like keeping someone as a sex slave or some shit like that I'm just not like that so I find it hard to believe you have a fetish dude it's just you being you in my eyes. If you haven't forced someone to be your bitch sex slave then you don't have a fetish to me.

[Rye]

I think I'll take a scientific response to this. I think the issue here is indeed labelling. People love to categorise things and that's fine until you get to people because people are hard to define as they have free will. I theorise that it's classified as a fetish because for some people it could be a sexual thing. This being generalised ends with the categorisation of fetish to the community as a whole. In the end it is very hard to classify because it's human behaviour that acts one way with one person and completely differently with another,making it imposable to generalise and give one definite label since it's unique to each person.

I think the main issue is people drawing conclutions, especally when kids are on topic. I know that they're not but the idea is and people assume a link between the sexual attraction towards kids and the wanting to be a kid. This mostly annoys me as being branded a paedophile is unfair and not true for the community.

In answer to you're last question about how can someone be sexual over clothes, you'd be surprised what psychologists can do with a lot of free time and a willing volunteer through classical and operant condition according to B.F Skinner's Behaviourism.

Originally Posted by NicroZeo

Unless it's an interaction with your body parts like screwing someone then that's a fetish in my eyes like maybe Oral sex or some shit but wearing diapers? I just don't see that .-. I just get highly offended though if someone think acting like a kid is a fetish >.< I also dress like a kid in public and if someone said I had a fetish I'd tell them to fuck off it's just me being me.

Again, fetishes aren't always sexual, yo~!

Also just because something is a fetish doesn't mean it isn't "you just being you". Your fetishes are a part of you, even if they are sexual. They are absolutely 100%, by definition, you being you.
Lastly: sex isn't a fetish, since it's just a natural process. Oral sex could be considered a fetish since that isn't what a mouth is usually used for...

Originally Posted by NicroZeo

Though I do not see again anything wrong with it I just don't like the fetish part I just like it to like being a kid or baby and treated like one because I feel safer. I do like being part of an adult but I also try to keep a low profile when I go out because I don't trust a lot of people I know again I sounded harsh but yeah I just don't wanna get mixed up as a fetish since a fetish is a sexual object I'm thinking maybe those dick toys or maybe a sexual satisfaction like keeping someone as a sex slave or some shit like that I'm just not like that so I find it hard to believe you have a fetish dude it's just you being you in my eyes. If you haven't forced someone to be your bitch sex slave then you don't have a fetish to me.

It seems as though you have a different definition of the word "fetish" than most people do. This is important to recognize because it means that you may take things people say the wrong way because they mean something different from what you think they meant...

A fetish is an obsession with something... Often this obsession can be sexual, but it isn't always.
Check this out from Dictionary.com:

fet·ish [fet-ish, fee-tish] noun
3. Psychology . any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

Notice the word "or"? If you have a fixation to a certain object, even if it isn't sexual, that can be considered a fetish.
That's why we get people who really like scarves on Pinterest calling their pages "My Scarf Fetish". I am pretty sure they don't have a sexual fetish for scarves, but merely like them a lot.

[AB Avery]

Why people dislike people like us usually? Easy, we're different

Same thing happened in 1492 when columbus met the native americans

Or when the world first went to Africa and we found "black" people

People do not like to accept those that are, in their book, "not normal" I even see it here with certain pics like a woman with rather abnormally large breasts and the members call it disgusting ect. because to us its weird (which personally I find slightly ironic since, in the terms of people, AB/DL's and everything in between, like me who has no interest in wearing, or caring for one, I just like seeing diapered girls, are some of the strangest out there in most peoples books)

No matter what, we are always gonna be different unless society flips upside down and this becomes a normal thing.

We're like water, and oil, no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, they don't mix, not even in The Great Melting Pot itself (for you non-americans, no offense is meant)

[Diapee Girl]

Originally Posted by AB Avery

Why people dislike people like us usually? Easy, we're different

Same thing happened in 1492 when columbus met the native americans

Or when the world first went to Africa and we found "black" people

People do not like to accept those that are, in their book, "not normal" I even see it here with certain pics like a woman with rather abnormally large breasts and the members call it disgusting ect. because to us its weird (which personally I find slightly ironic since, in the terms of people, AB/DL's and everything in between, like me who has no interest in wearing, or caring for one, I just like seeing diapered girls, are some of the strangest out there in most peoples books)

No matter what, we are always gonna be different unless society flips upside down and this becomes a normal thing.

We're like water, and oil, no matter how hard you try, no matter what you do, they don't mix, not even in The Great Melting Pot itself (for you non-americans, no offense is meant)

I'm sorry, but this is completely false. 99% of people categorize AB/DLism as just another fetish. We aren't being persecuted or anything like that. We're just another fetish/alternative lifestyle. The difference here is that people just don't want other people's fetishes forced on them. Of course you're going to get some stares if you go out in public dressed like a toddler. To anyone besides us, they would look rediculous. Wouldn't you think a furry walking around in full costume in public was creepy?

AB/DLs can fit in just fine into societies, we've done it for probably hundreds of years. The key is to KEEP THE FETISH TO YOURSELF/YOUR PARTNER. No one cares or wants to know about what you do in the privacy of your own home. If you don't want to get weird looks in public, dress like an adult. Save the baby play for when you're in your own house.

[Babyfur448]

Originally Posted by Diapee Girl

I'm sorry, but this is completely false. 99% of people categorize AB/DLism as just another fetish. We aren't being persecuted or anything like that. We're just another fetish/alternative lifestyle. The difference here is that people just don't want other people's fetishes forced on them. Of course you're going to get some stares if you go out in public dressed like a toddler. To anyone besides us, they would look rediculous. Wouldn't you think a furry walking around in full costume in public was creepy?

AB/DLs can fit in just fine into societies, we've done it for probably hundreds of years. The key is to KEEP THE FETISH TO YOURSELF/YOUR PARTNER. No one cares or wants to know about what you do in the privacy of your own home. If you don't want to get weird looks in public, dress like an adult. Save the baby play for when you're in your own house.

I would really hate to go off topic here but umm.... Someone in a furry suit wouldn't quite be creepy but it does depend on the person you are. I for one wouldn't judge someone dressed as a toddler in public. I would think "Hey you a bold ass person to do something I don't have the guts or cojenes to do!" And it's HSBC to express my opnion with what's going on. But in simplistic form. Whether you are sexually attracted or not towards diapers that's you and your thing. In everyone's eyes we all should try to understand one another and just say, "Hey. You're being you and I'm
Being me now let's make mends and be friends." Of course I don't literally mean lets say but I'm willing to prove a point. And on a personal side... I enjoy regression and a little bit sexual towards diapers. Only if I mess in them. A diaper is a diaper. Until I end up using them. But it's not all the time. That usually only happens if I had "naughty thoughts" on my mind prior. Some of us here in this community online may may not wear diapers. Some of us wear them just cause why not. Others half to for a personal reason. And I'm sure we all can agree. On here we are able to express out diaperdom (I know it's not a word work with me here I'm a girl cut me some slack) freely here. I dint have any problems with anyone here with how they are. How they act. Or how they think. You are you. And you should stay that way because that's what makes you special and perfect in your own way. And I realize by now I've talked a lot and may have lost some of you and those who stayed in probably are like. "You should be a motivational speaker!" Well eh... I like to give advice were its needed and if it feels right. If anyone has questions please visitor message me because I'm still a probationary user so I don't get to send many personal messages. Anyhow thank you all for your time for reading this and have a great rest of your day and have a good tomorrow feeling a little educated if I helped at all. Even though most of us probably sound like broken records by now.

[Diapee Girl]

Originally Posted by Babyfur448

I would really hate to go off topic here but umm.... Someone in a furry suit wouldn't quite be creepy but it does depend on the person you are. I for one wouldn't judge someone dressed as a toddler in public. I would think "Hey you a bold ass person to do something I don't have the guts or cojenes to do!" And it's HSBC to express my opnion with what's going on. But in simplistic form. Whether you are sexually attracted or not towards diapers that's you and your thing. In everyone's eyes we all should try to understand one another and just say, "Hey. You're being you and I'm
Being me now let's make mends and be friends."

Uh...Okay then? I didn't mean to sound like I have anything against furries, it was just an example off the top of my head. But really, no offense, to the average person a person walking around in public in a fursuit would be pretty weird. But this is the case with any fetish; whether it be baby things, furry stuff, black leather, etc. There are just certain things you need to keep to yourself if you don't want people to think you're a creep. I consider myself an AB/DL, but if I saw somebody walking around the city dressed and acting like a baby, I'd probably roll my eyes. There's nothing 'respectable' about what they're doing. All they're doing is forcefully subjecting other people to their odd fetish. Save it for your own home or things like conventions where people who share that interest/fetish are meeting.

Originally Posted by Babyfur448

Of course I don't literally mean lets say but I'm willing to prove a point. And on a personal side... I enjoy regression and a little bit sexual towards diapers. Only if I mess in them. A diaper is a diaper. Until I end up using them. But it's not all the time. That usually only happens if I had "naughty thoughts" on my mind prior. Some of us here in this community online may may not wear diapers. Some of us wear them just cause why not. Others half to for a personal reason. And I'm sure we all can agree. On here we are able to express out diaperdom (I know it's not a word work with me here I'm a girl cut me some slack) freely here.

Of course we can talk freely about AB/DL things on this website, this is a website devoted to that kind of thing. Why would someone not interested even come here in the first place?
By the way, what does being a girl have anything to do with that?

Originally Posted by Babyfur448

I dint have any problems with anyone here with how they are. How they act. Or how they think. You are you. And you should stay that way because that's what makes you special and perfect in your own way.

*Sigh* Look, as much as I want to agree with this sentiment, part of being an adult is realizing you aren't some 'special snowflake'. Sure, everyone has little quirks that make them unique, but that doesn't mean that everyone wants to know each and every one of them (especially if they're sexual or deviant in nature). Yes, you're free to dress up and act however you want in public, but that doesn't mean everyone is going to take you seriously. Part of being in a society is learning how to properly interact with regular people; and broadcasting your fetish is not the way to do that.

Originally Posted by Babyfur448

And I realize by now I've talked a lot and may have lost some of you and those who stayed in probably are like. "You should be a motivational speaker!" Well eh... I like to give advice were its needed and if it feels right. If anyone has questions please visitor message me because I'm still a probationary user so I don't get to send many personal messages. Anyhow thank you all for your time for reading this and have a great rest of your day and have a good tomorrow feeling a little educated if I helped at all. Even though most of us probably sound like broken records by now.

...I'm sorry, but are you seriously congratulating yourself? No offense, but I really didn't feel any of these emotions that you were apparently supposed to invoke.