Who the hell is this guy? That's probably what you're thinking.... If not, then: "Hi! ...Why don't you ever return my messages....?" Anywhom, I used to be a pretty active member here, and if you have a little time, I've got some things to say. This isn't my life's story... admittedly that's in an old thread somewhere on here, and I'm not trying to cause drama, but HOPEFULLY, I might just get you thinking about things.
I have witnessed MASSIVE change in this site since 2008, and it hasn't all been bad. When I joined this site it was during one of the lowest points of my life. I wish I could say I was greeted with open arms, but in all actuality no one really took notice... Once I got in the thick of thing I really felt like I was part of a family, that people actually cared about me. (I'm not trying to gain your pity, I'm just saying that the people I met here were more of a friend than my friends) Slowly things changed, people found every reason to complain and fight. Everyone had to have a side... Sometimes I wonder how things would have ended up if we had all just settled all of this like adults.
The best thing that ever happened to me here, was getting banned from this site... I used to be very active here, I did anything and everything. When I was banned I can't exactly say I wasn't pissed off, but when I was left with a shocking realization: This site was useless to me. I had used up its usefullness towards my emotional needs, and was only on to complain and create chaos. Don't get me wrong... I wasn't out there stiring up waves, but I couldn't let the site that was so important to me become another sex-crazed brothel of filth. (My thanks to Fusu & Samiel for finally taking the plunge and cleaning up the gallery. While there may or may not be questionable content on this site, I do know that there are people watching for it.) When I finally returned two months after the ban was lifted, I found that most everyone I knew was gone, but I wasn't alone. My initial emotional need for this site was knowing that my fetish wasn't wrong, or even uncommon. The sites I saw before this one were money-grubbing pay sites, where all the comments to the models photos were "I'll change your diaper...
[email protected]". The irony of this is often fetish models don't even have the fetishes they do shoots for, so its diapers one day and gas masks the next. To them its a paycheck, I felt so out of place in the world. What did I do to be a part of this horrible taboo? Well, one day I was searching anime and animeAI came up, but in the search preview it said "DiaperedAnime"
This site has always been a different approach to the fetish, we all have it but what binds us is a love of anime, art, and fiction. I have created many clubs, threads, RP's, etc, with this in mind. We don't have to concentrate on our fetish, we can socialize on other things, safe in the knowledge that everyone else understands you. To focus on sexual desires with people whom you may or may not have a common interest with, is very destructive. To focus on common interests with people whom understand your sexual preferences, is actually emotionally supportive and is a healthy thing.
My grandmother used to be the best gardener ever before my grandfather died, she would occasionally kill plants due to "overnursing".... Giving a plant too much attention actually kills it. In that same way this site has slowly withered and lost some of its brightest flowers. Overmodderation has been a problem here longer than I have. (lol) The amazing thing is how this site is capible of such incredible collective exchanges of ideals, and how, given a few hours two quarreling members have suddenly friend requested each other. We don't always need the cavalry to arrive and "save the day" Instead, I propose that these same people offer up their own ideals, perhaps we could all learn something.
In short I hope this hasn't been a complete waste of your time. I thank you for reading this, I hope we can move in a positive direction together and support each other through even the worst of times.
Tighty Whitie Loser.
