i'm relatively new to this scene and to this site and not as seasoned nor well experienced as many of you are, but thus far i've come to conclude that more men are into this activity than we women, and for a lot more reasons than we are. i can only speak for myself and not other women, but it's more of an incidental activity for me and my partner rather than a major focused one. diapers, especially very pretty diapers (princess diapers) are a private fashion statement between us, and serve more as a stage prop like a costume, setting the scene and mood for a certain kind of play intimacy between her mommy/partner and her baby girl. they definitely don't provide any sexual gratification for either of us.
true, we women can get away with a lot more than the guys can in this western society. that does have a double edged sword though and they're are pros and cons to it. we have less pressure placed on us to achieve in the competitive realm and are not expected to be "top dog" in corporate society. we function more as "assistants and servants" e.g., secretaries, doctor's nurses and dental hygienists, day-care givers and baby-sitters and mid-wives, and are not taken seriously when we vie for leadership roles such as CEO's; but we all know that women can fill those roles as good as, if not better than the men. just look at Norway and Sweden. our value is sized up as wives. mommies and nurturers and the "stand by your man" concept. let a guy try that and he'd be viewed as a sissy or pantie-waist and a failure of society's expectations. can you imagine a guy told by his wife or girl friend to go to the super market and buy a box of maxi-pads for her, while standing in a crowded check-out line with everyone gawking and snickering at him? personally i'd think that would be so cute and amusing!!..especially of he's nervously blushing!! that would be absolutely adorable!!
guys, on the other hand are under tons of pressure to be the meanest most aggressive achievers in this western culture, hence the John Wayne and Clint Eastwood types of our world. they represent "Archetypes" for the men to measure up to. but guys' egos are so darned fragile and pressure seems to be relieved by harmless side ventures such as AB/DL. they're libido may be "stronger" than ours, as someone mentioned, but it is so impetuous and short lived!!.. a few minutes and it's over, like microwave ovens vs. crock pots!...and for that reason, i believe you'll find more guys as DL's than we women. AB's on the other hand are more of a women's thing from our prospective anyway, and a natural progression of intimate emotional play between two or more women.
personally i believe the guys envy us for various reasons because we aren't placed under the same harsh criticism as they are. we can enjoy our soft little bunnies and teddy bears and we still care, nurture and dress up and diaper our little dollies, and it's okay, and yes our monthly cycle does require some feminine protection e.g., "wings" which has been equated with "diapers" so we aren't expected to justify these babyish accoutrements. ribbons, lace and bows and pretty frilly hemlines are our natural domain, and "crying" in public is our birth right! on the other hand we are allowed to be tom-boys as well, but are discouraged from doing so especially at the pre-adolescent stages of our childhood.
guys are more visually oriented, so much so that they're eyes and mental vision are hard wired to their reproductive body parts. hence, the mental vision of being put or "forced" into a woman's or baby's little under-dainties triggers a new and novel fantasy venture society frowns on. therefore being regressed by a Domme gives him personal license to legitimize and pursue that activity and escape the societal taboo if he's fortunate to find a real Dommie Mommie who will do it to him. all she needs is a reason to justify it, be it his male frowardness or hubris e.g., "marital cheating" ultimately and helplessly met by his nemesis and retributive justice. she dresses him up and treats him like a helpless little baby and diapers him thereby denying him the right or capability of taking sexual license with himself or any other. she can also use that as remedial training correcting his errant ways. in that sense the diaper is not only a feminine article of clothing but serves as a baby-soft imprisonment and chastity device feminizing him and even as much as sissyfying him, especially if she thoroughly powders him giving him that pure, sweet, baby fragrance and not the rugged he-man colognes he used to act as aphrodisiacs to help seduce women. he's been disarmed and neutered and the diaper prevents sex and there's nothing he can do about it! he certainly can't seduce a woman dressed like that!..but i guess like anything else, there are exceptions.
i also believe the feminists movement has been conducive to having fueled this enterprise to some extent, because they've taken verbal and written issue with sexist males and their boorish chauvinistic expressed behavior. that we women are confined as mere sex objects limited to being in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant has been eroded. we are now a sizeable force to be contended with!
frankly none of these activities are harmful, provided it's done with mutual consent. i do not see this site and it's activity as pornographic material in anyway; but rather as totally harmless and healthy, constructive, artfully creative therapeutic means to play out a male's exploration of his softer more feminine, gentler, nurturing side thus sensitizing himself to the full aspect of his humanity vis-a-vis us women, and not just with himself in mind.
hopefully we'll see less male physical and sexual abuse on women and children in our world as time progresses and the misconceptions of big over-powering, invincible he-man Neanderthals will some day be retired as museum pieces as a part of the Dark Ages. there is such a thing as the male/female index which is like a circular continuum, and males have that just as much as we women do, and i think it's high time for the guys to connect with it. we're all on different locations of that continuum, one not like the other; which is why no one should ever judge, condemn nor deny the TV, TG, gay, or lesbian community their legitimate right to be accepted and respected as the people they are with their personal dignity and self respect left fully intact.
finally, i'm not a credentialed expert by any means and i've only shared my
personal opinions with the group. what i've shared is why i personally think there are lots more guys pursuing this scene than we girls. i only know a tiny bit on this topic but am learning all the time from knowledgeable sources and personal experiences and from this pleasant site too. as soon as i think i've understood everything, something comes along and unseats that preconception.
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