A drama? From a MOD?! Whoda thought?

[MutsuMutsu]

Originally Posted by Samiel

I suppose I should update this thread >.>

Long story short: NOT GETTING KICKED OUT.
I had a plan in place just in case I actually did, and when my parents saw how prepared I was to do this for the one I love, they drew back. Apparently it was a mature decision to do such a thing, and they would rather I focus that maturity elsewhere instead of throwing my future away. So, basically, we're gonna work out a compromise. I might let you guys know how that goes if you're curious.

Now that brings a pretext to make your future story into a cheesy soap opera and a nice idea for some stories here.

[Mojo]

I can't stand my dad because he is ashamed of my lack of desire to be the next tiger woods, and the fact that I'm not good enough at hockey. He thinks there's no point for me playing football. Everything he says is right or you're gonna get screamed at. He is a violent person who can't hold a job because all of his co-workers group up and ask his boss to fire him.

[Winnie Cooper]

Interesting. Everyone on this site SHOULD be over 18. Once you are 18, if you don't like the choices others make on your behalf - get a job and move your lazy a$$ out.

I'm serious. You want freedom, then you have to do the stuff necessary to get your independence.

Now, in my case, my parents didn't make any decisions for me once I was 18. They stopped making some of them long before that - when I was 14, it was my choice whether or not to go to church, and where I wanted to attend school. When I turned 18, my Dad said there was just 2 rules - don't come home drunk (I could go get drunk, just couldn't come home if I was... lol), and don't be in my bed with any woman to whom I was not married.

Of course I was raised right and I got a job and contributed to paying the household expenses.

[neo]

Personally I think your parents pulling back like that was probably part of the games parents play when they start to lose control. It just seems to me that you having everything set took their ammo away (they thought you may have been afraid of it) so they backed off for now. I would still though begin to prepare yourself for the eventual because it sounds like it is slowly going to get worse and it will become a necessity for both of your healths.

All I can really say is that the minute your parents start pulling the my house my rules speech every time you disagree (not just with compliance but with political views, preferences, beliefs and respectable life goals) is the minute your starting to wear out your welcome in the nest. It is a signal that its a time to secure yourself (income, education, independence) and then go on to start your own life. The easier, quicker, and the more peaceful is the transition the better it is for all involved.

My parents were always the thickly walled stubborn types who pretty much would leave you alone to your own devices unless you were not following what they wanted you to. As I got older I started to question things more and more and this just made it worse and worse with the "my house my rules" games until I blew up and I got kicked out.

I was pretty much locked away from about 12-16 so I had a very different experience that clashed alot with my parents when I got out (though I carried out my responsibilities as required including being punished if i didn't make "hospital corners" on my bed, and good marks, chores, working when I could, etc). It wasn't easy either with alot of mental health issues that were difficult to manage, but it wasn't really a responsibility issue that I could remember (as I carried everything out to the best I could).

I was in the hospital twice in fact because of this and I guess my parents thought by refusing to let me come home the medical staff would put me back in residential care so they wouldn't have to deal with me anymore (as I was in no way prepared to live on my own then and my ability to make my own income is questionable) so first time it came between a group home and getting disability and the second time, when the authorities were involved it was a group home or I moved out on my own with negotiated assistance under a contract.

Thankfully though I got through this and I'm living on my own now in fairly good shape compared to what could have been. The issues that got me kicked out have almost disappeared (the whole stimulus is gone) and while I'm still not a model adult I'm not exactly in jail, addicted, or on the street. So Really I think it was better that I finally got out of that mess.

Its nice to have another place to come home to where you won't be punished for something as simple as voting for (or corresponding with) a different political party than that of your parents. Poverty is a trade off but its all relative given what the costs are.

[Stellar Dreamer]

in case what VN was talking about was about me im 20 years old

[Tewi]

Originally Posted by neo

Personally I think your parents pulling back like that was probably part of the games parents play when they start to lose control. It just seems to me that you having everything set took their ammo away (they thought you may have been afraid of it) so they backed off for now. I would still though begin to prepare yourself for the eventual because it sounds like it is slowly going to get worse and it will become a necessity for both of your healths.

All I can really say is that the minute your parents start pulling the my house my rules speech every time you disagree (not just with compliance but with political views, preferences, beliefs and respectable life goals) is the minute your starting to wear out your welcome in the nest. It is a signal that its a time to secure yourself (income, education, independence) and then go on to start your own life. The easier, quicker, and the more peaceful is the transition the better it is for all involved.

My parents were always the thickly walled stubborn types who pretty much would leave you alone to your own devices unless you were not following what they wanted you to. As I got older I started to question things more and more and this just made it worse and worse with the "my house my rules" games until I blew up and I got kicked out.

I was pretty much locked away from about 12-16 so I had a very different experience that clashed alot with my parents when I got out (though I carried out my responsibilities as required including being punished if i didn't make "hospital corners" on my bed, and good marks, chores, working when I could, etc). It wasn't easy either with alot of mental health issues that were difficult to manage, but it wasn't really a responsibility issue that I could remember (as I carried everything out to the best I could).

I was in the hospital twice in fact because of this and I guess my parents thought by refusing to let me come home the medical staff would put me back in residential care so they wouldn't have to deal with me anymore (as I was in no way prepared to live on my own then and my ability to make my own income is questionable) so first time it came between a group home and getting disability and the second time, when the authorities were involved it was a group home or I moved out on my own with negotiated assistance under a contract.

Thankfully though I got through this and I'm living on my own now in fairly good shape compared to what could have been. The issues that got me kicked out have almost disappeared (the whole stimulus is gone) and while I'm still not a model adult I'm not exactly in jail, addicted, or on the street. So Really I think it was better that I finally got out of that mess.

Its nice to have another place to come home to where you won't be punished for something as simple as voting for (or corresponding with) a different political party than that of your parents. Poverty is a trade off but its all relative given what the costs are.

Do every single one of your posts have to contain AT LEAST 4 paragraphs? I mean I read it all and I agree with it totally - Two fucking thumbs up - but I've read a majority of your posts and they are all extremely long. Not that it's a bad thing of course but I just think you could sum it up in one or two paragraphs. I almost took the "too long, didn't read." excuse with this one and bunch of your other posts. That and it seems you kind of rambled on - though I guess it was part of the initial topic. Just what I think., nothing more.

[neo]

Thrash Blade:

It would have been 2 large paragraphs (aka text walls) and I would have had to leave something critical out out. Considering on average it takes me about a half hour to write anything Im probably better off not posting at all.

Believe me I have tried in the past to fix this but with how I write its pretty much impossible. I avoid forums (and online socialization) in general because of this

And To be honest you were better off spamming a one word TLDR reply at me or just not posting at all because really thats all your reply says anyways.

[Samiel]

All righty, this thread has served its purpose and now it's getting off topic. You two knock it off. I'm closing it anyway because since it didn't go the way I thought it would, it no longer serves the same purpose.