Girlfriend the end of ABDL ?

[tkb]

So yes this apparently happened there is this girl now that kinda me kinda cute and actually wants to be my girlfriend but I mean not in an ABDL way to be clear if she found that out I would kill me.

I'm not exactly sure what would happen if she found out one way or another but that would suddenly change things in the relationship but it most likely be a deal breaker.

A lot of other things match so there's that but i'm not exactly sure what to do now.
ABDL has often come in waves for me but maybe this would actually put an end to it being a bit forceful.

I would really like some feedback or tips on what would be the best thing to do.
She did say she wants to tidy up a bit in my apartment sometimes so that may already be a problem.

Though for sure i have thought about the possibility if that would actually work out but i'm not even sure if i would want that for real and like i said it most likely ends bad.

She's already so observant that she could almost make out i had some ABDL vibes
and with someone else she joked about not talking about age play when i was present. but these could be explained away by just being really shy and innocent and childlike.

knowing this if she would find any of ABDL stuff it would become obvious to her.
If she did find ABDL diapers at my place I'm sure she would put them on me bottle feed me and let me use them and might break it off later or something.

[terminator101]

My friend, if you truly believe that this girl wants to be in a serious relationship with you and you feel the same way towards her, even though you know that she will not truly accept your AR/ABDL lifestyle (Not the same as a "way of life" - The former involves a personal choice while the latter is inherent to a culture or people) then you'll need to determine for yourself what is more important for your own future - Having a girlfriend that may one day prove to be the one that you will share the rest of your life with or continuing on living possibly alone, in terms of romance (At least without her), with your AR/ABDL lifestyle. Of course, there is also the remote possibility that you might find a female AR/ABDL member of the diapered community to share your life with but IMHO, I think that would be a "Long shot" for happening as most of us are biologically male (Female AR/ABDLs do exist but they make up a minority of our population. See -> https://www.adisc.org/forum/threads/...-equal.139395/ and -> https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7068517/).

I think that it can be safe to say that as part of the diapered community, each of us all have/will eventually come to this kind of "Crossroads" in our respective lives. You need to do some deep "soul searching" and try to figure out for yourself what is best for you. No one can really tell you in particular what is best for you. Only you can do that. I hope that this helps you!

[tkb]

Apparently she used to be with someone badass years before but he got more and more mean spirited and eventually wanted to kill himself in front of her.
So she's done with that and now want to go for more cute shy child like and silly someone she can give hugs etc.

Well it's almost as if be careful of what you ask for XD.
Knowing that now however i have thought about the possiblity of it working out she would not be into ABDL herself but accepting me as such is not an entirely closed of possiblity.
Though it would forever decide who wears the pants in the relationship.

And not being used to sexual things may be a problem.
So far i have only cummed in a diaper...

But when push comes to shove i'm pretty sure i'm not gonna tell at the verry least wait a long time to see how it plays out

[AlternateCaregiver]

Sigh well this is something I fear, but understand I may face when I get in a relationship, of course I do feel I see ABDL differently then you do, as it’s more a kink to get into then a life style. But anyway when it comes to your girl it may be best to get to know each other more and more and see how things are, as I’m sure we both know throwing our fetishes too early is questionable, then again I do not know how long you been with this girl so can’t say when is a good time to ask about this kinda thing. Honestly you should try to show your non-Abdl side and see if she is attracted to that, as your ‘cute childish, silly’ side seems to be something she likes. This is all dependent on you too, make sure you are happy with her, like you both are enjoying each other’s company, having fun, and ain’t just arguing... Sorry I was thinking about my last relationship...

Just try this out for awhile and when you feel it is right you tell her when you’re ready.

[terminator101]

Originally Posted by tkb

Apparently she used to be with someone badass years before but he got more and more mean spirited and eventually wanted to kill himself in front of her.
So she's done with that and now want to go for more cute shy child like and silly someone she can give hugs etc.

Well it's almost as if be careful of what you ask for XD.
Knowing that now however i have thought about the possiblity of it working out she would not be into ABDL herself but accepting me as such is not an entirely closed of possiblity.
Though it would forever decide who wears the pants in the relationship. ...

... But when push comes to shove i'm pretty sure i'm not gonna tell at the verry least wait a long time to see how it plays out

At some point in time, you'll have to seriously consider whether the probability of her accepting you for the way that you are is high enough to warrant trying to pursue your relationship with her further.

Biding your time may sound like a good idea but you shouldn't wait too long though as life is short and you can't "Save time in a bottle" for use with her later together. When time passes away, it's gone for good.



BTW - This thread really belongs in the General Chat area.