Story of my life

[kittykimmy]

well...everyone is curious bout sumtin yakno plus life has its ups and downs
jst sum has more of one side than the other

[Knightmare]

Originally Posted by aznbabi

well...everyone is curious bout sumtin yakno plus life has its ups and downs
jst sum has more of one side than the other

Haha yeah but i'm that person who is too much curious and you know what they say."Too much is like not enough"

[Rai]

My life is pretty good. But that's my outlook. Somebody else could be miserable in my shoes.

Because of my fairly enjoyable life there's no way of consoling people with honestly bad lives, because I can't relate, and nobody really believes my reason for being happy, so telling people that doesn't really help either.

Person 1: "Life sucks"
Me: "Ok"

[MokatheGroundhog]

Originally Posted by victoriahnichole

You mean since now I said I have had some good things and bad things happen? I dunno. I guess I'll give it a quick wing.

My childhood was pretty normal for a nerd. I got picked on a lot but I NEVER ran or hid. I suppose that contributed to why I never back down from an argument today either. I was always the smallest kid in class - both of boys and girls - and I did seem to face more than my fair share of bullies. I can honestly say that though I think it is very, very wrong, I understand the kids who snapped and took a gun to school and blew some people away.

Never was sexually abused, thank God. I had a doctor one time who I now think was a little too personal, but at the time I don't think I noticed it really. I only saw him once anyway. They gave me vitamin shots when I was 6 to help me grow, but it didn't really help much. After a few times, my parents decided this was rather stupid and I stopped going for them. Which is all good and well - I may be shorter now than most guys, but who the heck cares??

Had my share of injuries. Broken nose at least once, broken toes many times, cracked my head twice. Once I broke three toes at the same time when I was 12 in Metal Shop. The head injuries were both in Third Grade - once a big rock hit me and cut me open pretty good, and the other I fell on my face on the ice and scared everyone half to death by the size bump it gave me. Picture day was two days later and on my picture it looks like I have a unicorn bump. lol Had xrays both times, no cracked skull.

I was sick a lot. Respiratory infections and flu. I got every one that came around. Then when I was 14, I started having seizures (would shake and spasm uncontrollably) and my hands would turn blue. Had 10,000 doctors and tests and they never did figure out what was wrong - but I grew out of it mostly. Once in awhile if I get really upset or am under intense stress I will still have one. At the time, I did use that as an excuse to say they caused me to wet my bed, and I wore diapers to bed for it. By that time I did know I liked to wear diapers, and I guess by 15 or so I knew there were others. I did not know just how widespread it was until much later. Remember, this was the late 80s.

When I graduated school - amazingly on time after all the sicknesses - I decided not to go to college. Instead I took a distance learning course for a "Career Degree" in Wildlife Conservation, which never did get me anywhere...lol. I worked in a donut shop and then a factory, each for a year. Then I jumped to retail and excelled. My first shot was at a movie store - Suncoast - where they knew me by my weekly visits but only by the name "Who". They called me that because every week I bought a Doctor Who video (I have the entire collection now, which is over 200 tapes). Then I went to a store that sold POGS, a fad in the 90s, and I was their first employee and climbed to Regional Manager in Northeast Ohio. In a Music Box store after that, I was the General Manager.

It was during all that I decided to become a preacher. So I found a preaching school (seminary) and went through it. Didn't think I would do well, considering High School, but I got all As and Bs and near the end a C or two. Got engaged to a girl who had a psychotic mother (I am not exaggerating or kidding), then broke up in a very bad breakup. Was harassed by the mother for months after that until I finally had to report her. Tried retail again after I graduated - I moved somewhere with the understanding that I was going to be a circuit preacher, and found out that none of the congregations knew that I was coming - my contact had lied to me. lol Wasn't satisfied and decided to go for a BA, so I transferred as many seminary credits as I could (83) to University and 2 years later had my BA and a way better life.

During that time I was stupid enough to get engaged to the same girl AGAIN and have an even messier breakup. Yeah - fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me - I know, I know.

Seems MANY churches do not want single preachers. You would be surprised by just how much that little thing cuts down my field search. So I went to work at a church that only hired me as an Associate Minister for $200 a month. Within a month the preacher quit (he knew well ahead of time he was going to and it was why he convinced them to hire me as the Associate), and they had a meeting and voted unanimously to hire me full-time. Providentially, the old preacher's supporters were there (the church was small, so they had outside Missionary help), and they were so impressed with the church's support of me they transferred their support to me as well.

I stayed there for two years. Things were looking a bit bad there, and I jumped to a church in South Alabama. Things looked much better there, until I rocked the boat by getting mad when I found out there was a "black church" in town and I wanted to know just why there had to be a "black church". The next day I got outed as an LG. Not saying for sure one thing had anything to do with the other. We also had an LG at that time who had made death threats and I got her banned from the resort where we have LG Camp because of it (and this wasn't a onetime thing - she did this regularly), and a lot of people think she outed me. At any rate they "forced me to resign". Then they threatened me to move to another part of the country. Yeah - good Christian folk right there. Then they stopped paying my storage fee without telling me (part of the promise they made to me for leaving quickly was to pay for a storage facility since I couldn't get a truck to move my furniture and didn't have anywhere to move it to if I could, and I could have forced them to leave me in place for another 60 days), and I almost lost everything. The last two weeks I lived there I had to sleep with my gun because someone leaked it to the redneck town.

Looking back on it, I SHOULD have lied. Or I should have refused to answer the question, or just sidestepped it. It wasn't any of their damn business anyway! It could not possibly have turned out worse in the end. But hindsight is 20/20.

That was, I think, the blackest part of my life. I didn't have anything to do with the church for 4 months - didn't even attend anywhere - while I thought it out.In the end I decided that Christians make mistakes too - I certainly do - and I shouldn't hold all of Jesus' church accountable for what one group of people CLAIMING to be his did.

I found a church in Kentucky. They said they had 30 members, later I found out it was 17. I agreed to come there one a one year contract. I was stupid enough to come before signing a contract- won't make that mistake again. After I had already moved they forced a six month contract instead and then held a meeting without even telling me, and one Sunday out of the blue they asked to "speak with me". When EVERY man of the church stayed late and followed into the room, I knew it was bad. They told me, "We aren't growing fast enough so we are going in a different direction sorry." Did I mention this was after FOUR months, not six? And that we had grown by 25% in that time? Oh, and their "different direction" was a part time preacher.

I could have forced the last two months, but you know - why?

Then I went to Louisiana. My god - that was the biggest mistake. It was horrible. They harassed me, broke contracts, lied, interfered, threatened, sneaked, slandered me, called me a paedophile because I have dolls ... I seriously have problems still not hating them. At least I was well paid. I left after 9 months. I could have forced 15, and now I wish I would have. Again - hindsight.

After a year during which I lived off that good pay from the last place, did some temporary warehouse work, and preached part time for 4 months as an Interim preacher in North Carolina, I came to where I am now - Wisconsin. And if my contract is renewed in February - and I see no reason why it would not be ... then again I never saw the other places coming either, so...lol - I will end up breaking my record for my longest stay in one place since 1996. I must like these people or something. Or maybe they like me.

Tell me honestly - did anyone actually read that whole thing?

i read the whole thing too

[MokatheGroundhog]

here is my story

February 2, 1989 (hehe i'm a groundhog) i was born
1995 to June 2008 in school
sometime between june and now had an accident on my bike what happened was i was riding bike one day when i looked at the sky and it was full of dark clouds they were almost pure black (then i figured that i better speed up to get back to the house or i may get struck by lightning i was carrying stuff on my one arm) then it happened, i was going so fast that i crashed my bike (in the middle of a street no less) i ended up landing chin first left with a pretty decent gash on my chin after that i picked up my bike and the other stuff i dropped and walked back to the house cleaned the wound a little then went to the neighboors house and they brought me to the hospital first i called my stepdads cell-phone (what i didn't know is that he forgot his cell-phone at the house my mom and step-dad were both away from at the time of the accident) got to the hospital, registered, waited, got called, went get my chin stiched up (required 5-7 stiches) it took a little over 19 years for this to happen

December and beyond: i really don't know what is in store for me, when i find out i will post another reply in this thread

[shaymin5000565]

Originally Posted by chibigo

What a depressive thread. Compared to this, my autism-related asociality is nothing.

i have autism too now i don't feel alone.

[MokatheGroundhog]

i have ADHD

[Elemental Anon]

I don't believe in ADD or ADHD. Its easy for someone to be diagnosed with something like that just because they choose not to pay attention to a certain subject. Those two "disorders" are nothing but excuses most of the time.

[Knightmare]

Originally Posted by Elemental Anon

I don't believe in ADD or ADHD. Its easy for someone to be diagnosed with something like that just because they choose not to pay attention to a certain subject. Those two "disorders" are nothing but excuses most of the time.

I agree, it's like a doctor saying to a patient he's going to die.Even if it's not true the patient will feel like he is dying.It's really all in the brain.

[chibigo]

Yeah, you two should really try how it is to be born with autism. Unfortunately, that's not possible, so I'll just say:
Autism, and those disorders that might come (notice: autism covers a very wide array of "disorders", "impairments" and "syndromes", whose occurencies and "strengths" varies a lot between individuals), well this thing is something neurological = it can be physically confirmed (though a few of the disorders, etc cannot, and many are not tested by actually scanning).

Really. If your brain was unable to filter away some of the information, normal kids can ignore (that means you'd have to pay attention to every car strolling by on the street, the kids talking outside your classroom, your classmates occasional feet movements and the flies thats hovering around, etc, etc. Then yeah, it IS hard on you to "focus" on the teacher. Especially if you honestly want to pay attention.
And this might all be things that you know of, but eg. people with the inability to "focus", like me, are not unable to do so because we are "lazy" or "refractory". It's because a birth defect we have, renders us unable to.

Oh gawd, go look it up at wikipedia or something you guys. -.-

(Sorry for straying a bit off-topic, but I guess there's always some way that you could perspectivate this to "stories of peoples lifes". ^^)

Originally Posted by shaymin5000565

i have autism too now i don't feel alone.

Didn't say I'm feeling alone. It's not that hard for autists to find the right environment, but I bet you know too, what a hell it is when you're in an environment that can't handle your autism. - Like primary school. -.-